“Thankfulness is the beginning of gratitude. Gratitude is the completion of thankfulness.
Thankfulness may consist merely of words. Gratitude is shown in acts.”
—Henri Frederic Amiel
Your spouse has spent years learning nearly every detail there is to know about you. They make your coffee just how you like it, always know where you left your keys, and remember to order your favorite meal without the item you’re allergic to. To top it off, they offer you emotional, mental and financial support. You are undoubtedly grateful, but it never hurts to go the extra mile to show it. Here are three ways to express gratitude to your spouse.
1. Give Them Something Handmade
One fun way to show your spouse gratitude is by getting your hands dirty. If you are crafty, you can build a helpful item your partner will treasure and make good use of. For artistic spouses, an original painting or piece of jewelry will be sure to impress. And if you want to try your hand at cooking, a sweet treat or savory dinner is always a good idea. Whichever route you choose, the sentiment behind your handmade offer will prove it a meaningful gesture worth gifting.
2. Thank Them in Their Love Language
It may seem like the sheer act of thanking someone is enough, no matter how you go about it. But author and counselor, Gary Chapman, would disagree. In his wildly popular book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, he suggests you learn how your spouse prefers to experience love. Knowing your spouse’s love language can help deliver a meaningful gift, apology, or in this case, a thank you. The key is to express gratitude in the way your partner best receives it, instead of how you prefer to deliver it. So, first discover their love language, then show your appreciation.
As much as we’d like to think we know the most meaningful way to express gratitude to our spouse, the truth is, it never hurts to ask. Be direct by letting your spouse know you appreciate all they do and want to show your extreme gratitude. Ask for their honest feedback on how you can best serve their needs in a way that will help them feel loved, supported and appreciated. Asking directly not only shows humility and a desire to learn, but proves you are eager to listen and meet your spouse’s needs.
Every relationship could benefit from a little more gratitude. Too often, we become accustomed to the many deeds our spouses perform to improve the quality of our lives. Take a moment today to highlight your appreciation using one of the three gratitude tips from above and honor your spouse with the recognition they deserve.