Fresh Ways To Look At Routines For A Rewarding Lifestyle

We typically view people who lead exciting and purposeful lives as individuals who embrace adventures and welcome innovation. Meanwhile, people who do the same things over and over again every day rarely cross our minds. Does this mean that people tied to routines are less happier and fulfilled? Does sticking to a set of tasks day in and day out make people less brave or competent?

For others, it can even be a reason to feel down as they start to see their lives as boring, repetitive, or aimless. However, with an open and fresh point of view, it is easy to see the beauty and stability that routines bring to our lives. The following are some fresh perspectives that will help you to better appreciate routines:

Promotes well-being.

Establishing a set of routines will be more challenging if you keep on moving from place to place. Thus, people who embrace routines are likely to stay in one place for longer periods of time. The good news is that research has proven that this practice is indeed beneficial to our health and happiness. The study says that people who stayed in their hometown are leading happier lives. The same study likewise reveals that these people are less likely to suffer from sickness and even have a longer life expectancy rate.

Nurtures your relationships.

We all know that long-distance relationships are challenging. Forming a close bond requires us to spend a lot of time with the special people in your lives. This will not be so easy if your schedule is always uncertain since you are always gearing up for your next adventure. However, if your days are all planned out because of your routines, nurturing relationships will be more feasible. Routines can also lessen the stress that comes from relationships because people know exactly what to expect from you.

Encourages creativity.

Routines lessen if not remove the stress that can come from always wondering what to do next. This frees your mind from clutter which makes it easier for your creative juices to flow. You may even be surprised with the wave of novel ideas that you are capable of. Moreover, people who follow routines usually have more extra time that they can use to pursue artistic ventures.

A little adventure every now and then can indeed spice up our lives. However, it is likewise important to respect that some people are simply not that bold or adventurous. For some people, finding contentment by following a precise set of routines is already a happy adventure by itself.

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Three Ways to Cope with Stressful Days

Even the closest of families experience times of stress. As much as we want things to be perfect all the time, that simply isn’t a realistic expectation. When life throws you curveballs, you have to adapt. So, here are three ways to help your family cope with stressful days.

Give Each Other Space

Although your instincts may tell you that you need to get to the root of the problem immediately, sometimes a little space goes a long way. After a stressful day, your family may want to unwind by going to their respective corners and destressing alone. If someone wants to take some time to cool off, that’s okay. Remember that you always have tomorrow to reconnect when emotions are less raw.

Get Active

Another coping strategy is to partake in physical activity as a family. If you’ve endured a particularly trying day together, consider using exercise as a stress reliever. You can suggest something as simple as a walk around the neighborhood, or try a team sport like tennis or basketball. If you think your family needs a dose of mindfulness and mental clarity, yoga may be the perfect fit. Whichever activity you choose, make sure it’s one the whole family can enjoy.

Cook Together

What’s better than a tasty meal? If your family needs help putting a stressful day in the rearview, try cooking dinner together. Think of a favorite meal and gather everyone in the kitchen to prepare it as a group. The act of cooking will give your family something different to focus on, with a happier end goal: a shared meal made with love.

As draining as hard days can be, experiencing them as a family can bring you closer together. Choosing to cope in healthy ways also helps tighten your bond. Keep these three coping strategies handy for the next stressful day to help it end on a happier note than it began.

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How to Maintain an Identity Separate from Parenthood

Parenthood can be all-consuming. Caring for a child is no easy feat: it takes a great deal of time, thought and energy. Because we prioritize our children, we give them the first and the best of whatever we have to offer, leaving the leftovers for ourselves. But when our leftover time, attention and energy isn’t enough, we become one dimensional. Many of us begin to limit our identities to being parents and nothing else. We often think this transformation is necessary in order to be devoted caretakers. In reality, this transformation robs us of our ability to be happy and whole. To be the best parent you must first be the best you. However, you can’t achieve that if you no longer know who you are outside of your parental role. If you find yourself in this predicament, try these four tips to maintain your identity separate from parenthood.

Stay in Touch with Friends

Friendship is important. The act of connecting with like-minded individuals who know all the details of your life (past and present) provides a mental outlet that is undeniably necessary in adulthood. Friends give us the chance to reminisce, vent and let loose. They can be a shoulder to cry on, timely comedic relief or simply a hand to hold. But because parenthood keeps us busy our former friendships sometimes get pushed to the back burner or lost altogether. Instead of severing your friendships, make it a point to stay in touch. While your adult companions can serve as reminders of who you were before children, they can also help keep you connected to your individualism, even with children.  

Independent Time

It’s no secret that parenthood requires the biggest time commitment you’ll ever make. From the moment your first child is born, you assume a twenty-four hour, seven day a week responsibility. Because our children rely on us for everything from their physical needs to their mental and moral development, it’s common for many parents to lose track of time in the process. Before we know it the kids are successful young adults in college while we struggle to find our rhythm as empty nesters. Failing to make time to feed your own mind, body and soul can wreak havoc on various parts of your life. Some people end up resenting their choice to selflessly sacrifice so much of their time. Others wind up smothering their kids because they no longer know how to function outside of their parental role. Stay-at-home parents may also harbor hidden animosity toward their children or spouse because of the amount of daily time devoted without a break. The best remedy is to work with your support system to schedule time away. Whether that be a date night, independent time or a tropical getaway, regular time to yourself will help clear your mind and leave you refreshed and ready to be the best parent you can be.

Independent Interests

Lastly, balanced parents need independent interests. We put our children in chess club, soccer and gymnastics to expose them to various people, opportunities to problem solve and life experiences. Why don’t we do the same for ourselves? For the same reason your children need hobbies, parents can also benefit from having interests that are uniquely theirs. Set aside time for yourself to do what makes you happiest. Consider old passions you’ve forgotten. Look into trying something new. You deserve the chance to release some stress, invest in your personal growth or relax and unwind. Parenthood shouldn’t cancel out your ability to make those joys a part of your weekly routine.

Being a parent is a privilege and an honor. The joy of parenthood far exceeds the struggles we may face along the way. Still, it’s important that you don’t lose yourself in the process. Children benefit most when they have happy, balanced adults in their lives. Be honest with yourself and your spouse about what you need in order to restore a feeling of self, and use these three tips as your guide.

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